We attended the local county fair, saw Kung Fu Panda, and did lots of yard work. Overall it was a good weekend.
I have asked hubby to move back home. This should be exciting news, but I feel a little subtle about it. I guess it is fear, and reality to be hesitant.
We are at a spot right now that when someone asks me why we aren't together or what do I not like about it, the reasons all sound petty in my head. Even when I do spit them out, they sounds like superficial reasons to get divorced or not be together.
Things like, he is never on time to ANYWHERE.
He has a lackadaisical parenting role, by his choice, yet complains that the kids won't listen to him.
He isn't very mature.
Petty reasons really, that I don't think would be any different with someone else. Or someone else would do things that would annoy me. I mean, no one can be as perfect as I am ;).
Maybe with time and continued counseling, we can get through these issues. It really comes down to respect for the other, for fondness and admiration for the other. Maybe with time we can gain those things more for each other and admittedly, I need to work on those things more for him.
With those "issues" worked out I think we could be really good together and if we aren't then I know we did everything we could have ever done to see if it was right or not.
We went (against my will) to check out new cars again. New or new to us cars. Only to try to get our payment down. I knew we wouldn't find anything. To actually lower our payment we would have to go from our perfectly FINE mini-van, with dvd, space and low miles over to a Cobalt or something much smaller than where we are now. In my opinion, we aren't that destitute to downgrade just to save money at this point.
So as he received the news from the car salesman, he looked over at me and said, "you were right."
Of course I replied, "yeah, I know and when you know this fact we will be GREAT together."
Hey, just want to say that I wish you guys all the best. I'm sure that counselling will help sort out some of the issues. I personally think it's great that you are giving it another go ... and if it works out, that's great. If not, you can't say you didn't try.
ReplyDeleteWe looked into doing the same thing with our van but decided against it. 2 1/2 more years of payments! God I can't wait.
ReplyDeleteGood luck witheverything else. I am sure it is all so draining.
Amen...it's about time he realizes that you are right. ;) And Im happy for you that it feels right to have him move back into the housee. Stacie...you have done a lot of work to make this happen. I am keeping my fingers crossed that the outcome will bring you much deserved happiness.
ReplyDeleteWell if he hasn't already figured out that you are right like 99% of the time then...
ReplyDeleteOh wait, not there's always hope and the car story looks promising.
I think your reasons for giving it another go are excellent and I think that trying is all you can do. I sincerely do hope it all works out because if I know anything, it's that you deserve to be happy!
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I will keep good and positive thoughts for you that all works out for you and your family. I really do understand the uncomfortable-ness of the situation because I have lived it. The counseling will help. I wish you all the best!
ReplyDeleteI wish you the best. You have to be able to always say that you did everything you could do, so with that, I am sure you have made the right choice.
ReplyDeleteOh, and those things aren't petty, cuz they add up. I used to be a marital counseling. Most issues were a conglomeration of little things, not one big thing. You were right; its having respect and secure admiration for the other.
stace, i'm glad you feel like you are in a place where you want to try living with cory again. that said, i agree w/working mom that your issues aren't petty and they do add up! not saying you shouldn't invite him back- just wanting you to validate what you feel and experience. it's real, it matters.
ReplyDeletexoxo