Yesterday's post is in no way ME generalizing or stereotyping ALL MEN.
Sure the man who "fathered" me is an ass and the man that "fathered" my son is a major ass, but there are good men out there.
(Ironically or not so ironically, they are both alcoholics...common theme, I seem to think so...and maybe THAT is a bitter resentful generalization and stereotype that I am spewing. See shoe fit.)
I am lucky to be involved with one, Mr.F. My daughter is lucky to have one that she calls Daddy. I am lucky to have a step dad has willing stepped up to partake in my life as a Father figure.
There are men out there that are GREAT fathers and Dad's and to them I say, hey...HAPPY LATE FATHER'S DAY.
I know it's an uphill battle for those men to get the recognition they deserve and they should be acknowledge as IMPORTANT parts of their family dynamics.
Just as there are jerky men out there that don't step up to the parenting plate, there are craptastic Moms too.
So, just wanted to put that out there so you all know that I do know that there are good men out there, there are Dad's who care and WANT to be a part of their child's life. Unfortunately, two men in my life are missing out on their opportunities to have that chance.
It didn't come across to me that you were male-bashing, just asshat bashing.
ReplyDeleteHooray for the men who step up!
Yeah, I didn't get that either. I just picked up on the unhappiness with the one asshat in particular.
ReplyDeleteNope...didn't get male bashing from that post. Pissed off at certain men, yes, male bashing, no.
ReplyDeleteI think this is nice that you acknowledge the good men out there in the world. I also equally feel you should be able to talk about your experience and if your experience with the earlier two are asses, well then ass it is.
ReplyDeleteI totally understand, my Dad is the best, but the Father of my child - ASS! And it hurts me to the bone when he hurts my little girl or makes her feel not important. I think alot of people can relate.
On a separate issue would you email me how you put a video on your blog? I would email you but can't get your address - I think because I do not have outlook. If you could I would greatly appreciate.
We don't let the bad apples ruin the whole bunch...they just make us aware to take a good look before we take a bite!
ReplyDeleteMy so called father was a peice of trash and my step father isin't much better so I totally understand the frustraion and anger you're going through and I totally agree with you. It's good to know there are still guys out there who are "real men" who step up and do the right thing, even if their not the biological father in many cases.
ReplyDeleteAsshats like the one you have to deal with like my father will come to regret what they've done years later when your son is an adult. Only when it's too late and their alone and unwanted will they know the mistake they made.
I love my dad. My mom.......... she could've done better.
ReplyDeleteTheir loss for sure. And they'll only realize it too late.
ReplyDeleteI echo Stacy and The Wolf's comment. It is their loss. Glad to hear Mr. F is a keeper!
ReplyDeleteThere are good and bad in everything. I think that the fact that the men who aren't in your life are alcoholics says a lot. Perhaps it is better that they are not present unless they are truly in recovery.
ReplyDeleteIn no way did I think you were male-bashing. Not even for an iota of a second.
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